No, you change first (photo: It’s the American way isn’t it? Freedom, justice, as well as excuses and codependence.) Nothing changes until we change. And many of us will not change because we want someone else to go first. Next Blog By jeff noel Retired Disney Institute Keynote Speaker and Prolific Blogger. Five daily, differently-themed personal blogs (about life's 5 big choices) on five interconnected sites. View all of jeff noel's posts.