Are You Afraid?


Fear is a survival instinct. (think caveman) A gift, to keep us alive.

You get that, right? Fight or flight?

Fear is also an excuse.

“I’m afraid if I talk about it at work, socially, at the gym, with my neighbors, on the Internet, that I might ruin my chances for **insert** promotion, opportunity, relationship, readers, followers, advocates, etc.”

What the?

Exactly. An excuse.

I do not go around telling everyone I’m a Christian. In fact, I don’t tell anyone.

But I also don’t keep it a secret. In fact, I don’t keep it a secret from anyone.

I wonder if anyone else thinks like this. Actually, it really doesn’t matter what anyone thinks of me being a Christian.

That’s when you know you are no longer afraid.

By jeff noel

Retired Disney Institute Keynote Speaker and Prolific Blogger. Five daily, differently-themed personal blogs (about life's 5 big choices) on five interconnected sites.


  1. Jeff,

    I guess I fall back to the verse from Matthew 5:16, that says, “In the same way, let your light shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in heaven.” I may not have a sign taped to my chest, announcing, “I am a Christian,” but I do want my life to reflect Christ in such a way that the world can see Christ in me and want to know why there is a difference…what gives me hope when others only know despair.

    I remember one time years ago I worked in a place where a guy treated me badly routinely. I had done nothing to this man that I could see to warrant this behavior. But he told someone else there that he hated me because he felt when I looked at him, I was judging him for the way he lived his life. We had never discussed his life, and I had never said to him, “I am a Christian.” But I didn’t hide that I was a Christian either. All I can say is that he wasn’t seeing me judging him, but God through my life was convicting his spirit. It wasn’t me, but God through me – I never said a word.

    We live our lives to please God, not man. You are right – that’s when you know you are no longer afraid.


    1. Wow. Hope there was a happy ending. Sounds like neither of you felt good about what was happening. Life is very interesting in the way we see others, the way others see themselves, the way we see ourselves, and the way others see us.

      I’m not wise enough to offer anything more than that. Wait, just thought of something that may or may not be beneficial.

      Here’s an example: As a public speaker, if I look out at the audience and they look bored, I believe it’s because I’m boring them.

  2. To be honest, I no longer deal with the guy if I don’t have to, and he is still with the same company. But when I have to, I still try to shine God’s love toward him, even though he is acts like he is totally miserable toward everyone.

    His perceptions have become his reality, and his negativity have become his perceptions of all situations. I just try to break down that negativity with kindness if I have to be around him.

  3. Bob, I agree. Sometimes the best way to handle it is to stay away. No need to stir the hornet’s nest.

    I once worked with someone that complained all the time. I tried to help them see things from a different angle.

    All I did was frustrate myself. After years (I’m a little slow sometimes) of trying to help, it finally clicked. I was never going to change this person. Duh.

    So I let it go. Because I did see this person often, I would simply train myself to not listen, or, to discreetly remove myself asap.

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